14 June 2018

Do People Deserve A Second Chance?

We live in an imperfect world and expecting someone to be perfect is unreasonable. As human beings we will make mistakes because that’s how we learn to deal with ourselves and those around us. Sometimes people hurt us by their mistakes intentionally or otherwise; they apologize and promise to change.

I’ve always been a very understanding person. I find it easy to relate to other people and their feelings, because of my empathetic nature. So, when a person does something that hurts me, I think about why they would’ve done what they did. I try not to judge straight away; I think it through first.

Just like everyone else, I have my limits. There is only so much hurt that one person can handle; each of us has a threshold for emotional pain. We are only willing to put up with so much before we decide to give up.

That is when the question comes in… when do people deserve a second chance?

Thinking about the idea of second chances and how forgiveness is such a hard thing to do. It’s so easy for someone to come along and say, “Let it go. The past is the past.” But when you were the one who experienced the ordeal, it is a gut-wrenching process to decide whether to forgive someone or not.

The important thing for you to realize is that they could hurt you again; you might even regret giving them a second chance. BUT ask yourself this, what would you regret more – staying, but risk getting hurt again? Or walking away and losing something that may have been worth keeping?

However, when someone shows remorse, shows genuine promise that they are willing to make an effort to change; that is when they might deserve a second chance with you. It is up to you whether you want to take that risk.

Second chance isn't something that is to be provided. One should earn it. If they acknowledge their mistake and tries to learn something from it then yes, they deserve another chance to make it right.

Remember, at the end of the day, this is your life. Don’t let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn’t decide; you are the one living with the consequences. But as long as you remember that we all make mistakes, we never mean to hurt the people we love. Sometimes people do deserve that second chance.