9 May 2018

7 Reasons Your Employees Don't Respect You

Being the boss isn't all fun and games. The promise of power can be alluring, but the reality of being responsible for a team of employees may not be as glamorous as you imagined.

You're a fallible human being managing a team of fallible human beings. You're bound to fail them from time to time, just as they're bound to fail you.

So, in order to make this whole employee/employer relationship work and thrive, you're going to need a strong foundation of trust and respect. If you suspect this respect is lacking, here are 7 possible reasons why.

1. You Don't Let Your Employees Play to Their Strengths.

In his book, Do Nothing: How to Stop Over Managing and Become a Great Leader, J. Keith Murnighan stresses the importance of delegating tasks to competent staff. He writes, "The key insight here is simple: you will be a more effective leader if, rather than doing the work yourself, you let other people do it. In other words, stop working and start leading." In other words, hire the most qualified people for the job and then give them the freedom to do what they do best.

2. You Avoid Conflict at All Costs.

You may think that 'playing the nice guy' is a surefire strategy for gaining the respect of your employees, the opposite may actually be true. By avoiding conflict, you send the message that you're not confident in yourself or in your decisions. A strong leader doesn't shy away from uncomfortable situations, but instead approaches them confidently and with an eye to rectifying the situation.

3. You Don't Appreciate Your Employees (Or At Least You Don't Show It).

Your employees are the ones who are helping you grow your business. Show them the appreciation they deserve by being generous with your praise and encouragement, and by letting them know how integral they are to the success of your business.

4. You Aren't Reliable.

You expect your employees to show up for work on time, to meet their deadlines and to do what they've promised to do. But do you hold yourself to the same standards? Your employees are watching you to see if you practice what you preach. When you miss a deadline, don't make excuses or assume no one noticed. Apologize and do better next time--just like you expect your employees to do.

5. You Don't Respect Them.

Respect is a two-way street. If you don't respect your employees, I can guarantee they aren't going to respect you. Calling them out in front of customers, failing to recognize their achievements, and not listening to their feedback are all signs you don't respect them.

6. You Offload Blame onto Others.

A great leader graciously accepts her fair share of the responsibility when things go wrong. This doesn't mean allowing yourself to become a scapegoat; it does mean claiming your mistakes as your own.

7. You Don't Care About Their Personal Lives.

It would be unrealistic to think you need to know everything about your employees' personal lives. But there's a big difference between knowing everything and caring about the things you do know. A little care and concern goes a long way to earning the trust and respect of your staff.