21 July 2017

14 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Is Scared Of Commitment

Does he make you feel unwanted but still claim to ‘love' you? We know exactly what you’re going through. If his attitude towards love, relationships and commitment nonchalant, he probably has commitment phobia. Avoid the heartbreak and confusion and check out these 14 signs he can't commit before it's too late.

1. He’s a total charmer
At first, they can be extremely charming and give you all the love and attention you need. Until, he knows he’s got your love locked down. This is when his less attractive side begins to show.

2. He loves the chase not the catch
He will push back as soon as you start getting too close but as soon as you pull away their love for you has no end. Exhausting.

3. He has a history of infidelity
Make sure to quiz your man before you commit to anything serious. A dude with a string of broken relationships and affairs is bad news for any girl. NO exceptions.

4. You feel like your relationship has reached a dead end
Things probably went fast paced at first, seeming almost too perfect, but now it feels like things have come to a sudden halt. You hear from him less, your emotional connection has fizzled out, you don't spend as much time together... these are classic signs of a fearful man getting too close.

5. Lying is second nature to him
Lying about what he’s doing or where he is gives him a sense of freedom and space. It also make him feel powerful. They hate being controlled and confined to a single relationship, he needs to know he has total control over what you do together. Nothing less, nothing more.

6. He gets bored easily
Texts become scarce, calls zero to none…they want to have the freedom to still shop around. What (or who) is keeping your man from dialing?

7. The ‘I don’t want a title’ excuse
Otherwise known as the biggest BS excuse known to women- ‘I’ve been hurt bad’, ‘I like to take things slowly’… Let’s go with the flow. Please, save your breathe only dead fish go with the flow.

8. No personal stuff
If leaving your personal stuff like your earring, toothbrush, and clothes at his is still a problem, he may not want you to think the relationship is a ‘permanent’ one. Interrogate him! (You have every right.) After a reasonable amount of time there shouldn't be any excuse not to.

9. He travels a lot for work
Traveling a lot is a recipe for instability in any relationship, but for someone afraid of commitment! It's perfect. He will never have to commit to a regular schedule with you, giving him more freedom to do exactly what he wants. He also has a lot of opportunities to be unfaithful too. Hmm not a good sign.

10. You haven’t met each others’ friends, family, or co-workers yet
They compartmentalize different aspects of their lives and will make every excuse not to let you get in the way of them.

11. He blames you for being crazy
He makes you feel like you’re ‘overreacting’ or too ‘overbearing’. Even worse, he says you’re a drama queen for nagging him about not seeing each other enough.

12. He’s into gambling, drinking or drugs
If he has an addiction to any of the above, chances are, he’s not very happy with his life. So if he can’t commit to himself, how’s he gonna commit to you? Ask yourself.

13. He treats you like a mistress rather than a girlfriend
If your man’s not committed, you’re probably not high up on his list of priorities either. Does he check in regularly? Make you dinner sometimes? Introduce you as his girlfriend (very important)? Make sure he’s treating you like a girlfriend and not just a side chick.

14. He never uses the word 'we'
'Marriage' and 'forever' can be pretty daunting to hear even for romantic types! But if 'we' isn't part of his vocabulary yet you might want to question his intentions in it all. Where does he see himself in 5 years’ time? If you're not in it, then the relationship is probably not for you.